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My parents, mostly my dad, taught me some things about the way you treat others.

I noticed some things about some people in Memphis. These are my pet peeves. I thought I'd write down my top ten rules for being a gentleman.

1. ALWAYS stop for a funeral procession.

2. Never sit while a woman stands

3. Always pay when taking a girl out.

4. Never hesitate to wait for a lady when holding the door open.

5. Always say yes or no sir/mam to anyone no matter the age

6. Say mam or sir instead of Huh

7. Shake a man's hand firmly while looking him in the eye.

8. Avoid using profanity in front of women

9. Try to avoid making off-color jokes in front of mixed company

10. Nothing is better than sitting in a rocking chair on a front porch while drinking a mint Julep in a seersucker suit.




Sad to see how many people have forgotten these easy things.

You're either as old, or older than, me. You will not get many 'I agree' responses here. In fact, most people will probably want to know what a mint julep is, and the thread will turn into a discussion of people getting drunk at the Kentucky Derby.

(04-26-2009 02:11 AM)supertiger Wrote: [ -> ]I noticed some things about some people in Memphis. These are my pet peeves. I thought I'd write down my top ten rules for being a gentleman.

1. ALWAYS stop for a funeral procession.

2. Never sit while a woman stands

3. Always pay when taking a girl out.

4. Never hesitate to wait for a lady when holding the door open.

5. Always say yes or no sir/mam to anyone no matter the age

6. Say mam or sir instead of Huh

7. Shake a man's hand firmly while looking him in the eye.

8. Avoid using profanity in front of women

9. Try to avoid making off-color jokes in front of mixed company

10. Nothing is better than sitting in a rocking chair on a front porch while drinking a mint Julep in a seersucker suit.




Sad to see how many people have forgotten these easy things.

I agree and try to pattern my daily habits around these principles. However, I sadly fail on a couple of them more often than I like to admit. And I love seersucker.

I was working @ a business last fall and these people had "fashion week" and one of the days was seersucker day. Seven people showed, all under 35. I was stunned.

A simple "thank you" seems to have become passe, with many, especially younger people these days.

Agree with all except #10. Never wore a seersucker suit(don't really even know what one is) or drank a mint julep. I'd replace it with shorts and t-shirt and a cold Coors Light.

(04-26-2009 12:51 PM)kpigout Wrote: [ -> ]Agree with all except #10. Never wore a seersucker suit(don't really even know what one is) or drank a mint julep. I'd replace it with shorts and t-shirt and a cold Coors Light.

That's a seersucker suit.

I agree. I went to Perkins today and was standing next to an empty bench seat so my girlfriend could sit while we waited. Then some guy stepped in front of her and sat down there. The kicker was that he was waiting for the woman he was with to finish paying the bill. Also I am in my 20's and that guy looked to be in his late 40's, so don't blame the youngsters. Some of us were raised right.

TJT was raised right. I can vouch for that. Plus I always thought, seersucker was pretty cool. There are young and old alike, that have poor manners. I mean how hard is it to hold a door for someone.

One of the biggest compliments my Parents ever gave me. They told me, that someone at Church, said that I had the best Manners. I'm sure I have changed some over the years. But having manners is not that hard. Plus I really learned them from Opie Taylor.

I always stop and think, WWOD.

I learned that list, too, from my father, adjusted slightly for gender. I am a woman, hopefully, a lady. That's another thing, too. My mother taught me there is huge difference in a woman and a lady.
My father taught me to always shake hands firmly, hold my shoulders back, and look a person in the eye. Your handshake is as good as your word, so don't give them a "fish."
We always stood up when our teacher entered the classroom, but that was back in the Dark Ages.
As Mphsfan said in another post, a lot of these youngsters speak horribly to each other, esp. guys to girls. And the utterly obscene words some young women use, seemingly, to impress guys boggles my mind. Off the soapbox now.

I'll let the girlfriend pay for a glass of wine or movie tix every once in while if she offers.

(04-26-2009 12:51 PM)kpigout Wrote: [ -> ]Agree with all except #10. Never wore a seersucker suit(don't really even know what one is) or drank a mint julep. I'd replace it with shorts and t-shirt and a cold Coors Light.

Agreed. I try to practice all of these habits daily, but number 10 is just crazy to me. Give me a T-shirt, some shorts, and some Miller Lite and I'm content for hours.

If you have any questions on seersucker suits, you may want to ask your resident Ole Miss fan.

When did people start saying "no problem" versus "You're welcome" when someone says "Thank you".

It drives me crazy when I thank someone and they say "No problem". Well it was your job, it should be no problem.

I'm 26 and was taught numbers 1-9. I know what a seer sucker suit is, but have no idea what a mint julep is. But, overall, I agree, people really aren't raised the same anymore. You see a lot of kids out there that 1) don't respect other people, and 2) don't even respect themselves.

Billy

(04-28-2009 09:59 AM)socerplaye Wrote: [ -> ]I'm 26 and was taught numbers 1-9. I know what a seer sucker suit is, but have no idea what a mint julep is. But, overall, I agree, people really aren't raised the same anymore. You see a lot of kids out there that 1) don't respect other people, and 2) don't even respect themselves.

Billy

A mint julep is an aberration.
If one drinks a bourbon worth drinking, one would never consider adding sugar and a mint leaf. It would be the same as dumping ketchup on filet mignon. Water is the only acceptable mixer, with a heavy tilt to branch water if one is so furtunate to have a stream about. Some, like my dad, think ice is unacceptable.
On the other hand, if one drinks a bourbon of a lower quality, have at it as long as hangover is not a concern.

i am 29, and i completely agree with all of that. i really wish parents still raised kids that way.

(04-26-2009 02:11 AM)supertiger Wrote: [ -> ]My parents, mostly my dad, taught me some things about the way you treat others.

I noticed some things about some people in Memphis. These are my pet peeves. I thought I'd write down my top ten rules for being a gentleman.

1. ALWAYS stop for a funeral procession.

2. Never sit while a woman stands

3. Always pay when taking a girl out.

4. Never hesitate to wait for a lady when holding the door open.

5. Always say yes or no sir/mam to anyone no matter the age

6. Say mam or sir instead of Huh

7. Shake a man's hand firmly while looking him in the eye.

8. Avoid using profanity in front of women

9. Try to avoid making off-color jokes in front of mixed company

10. Nothing is better than sitting in a rocking chair on a front porch while drinking a mint Julep in a seersucker suit.




Sad to see how many people have forgotten these easy things.

GREAT POST!!!

I have observed that rule #1 is followed very closely in rural/small town settings but will get you run over here!

I have owned a seersucker suit before, but have never had a mint julep and from the sounds of it, I'm not so sure I would want to.

One other rule that you left out is opening the car door for a lady. Simple actions of courtesy/chivalry sure do go a long way!

(04-28-2009 11:11 AM)Tigerdawg Wrote: [ -> ]

(04-26-2009 02:11 AM)supertiger Wrote: [ -> ]My parents, mostly my dad, taught me some things about the way you treat others.

I noticed some things about some people in Memphis. These are my pet peeves. I thought I'd write down my top ten rules for being a gentleman.

1. ALWAYS stop for a funeral procession.

2. Never sit while a woman stands

3. Always pay when taking a girl out.

4. Never hesitate to wait for a lady when holding the door open.

5. Always say yes or no sir/mam to anyone no matter the age

6. Say mam or sir instead of Huh

7. Shake a man's hand firmly while looking him in the eye.

8. Avoid using profanity in front of women

9. Try to avoid making off-color jokes in front of mixed company

10. Nothing is better than sitting in a rocking chair on a front porch while drinking a mint Julep in a seersucker suit.




Sad to see how many people have forgotten these easy things.

GREAT POST!!!

I have observed that rule #1 is followed very closely in rural/small town settings but will get you run over here!

I have owned a seersucker suit before, but have never had a mint julep and from the sounds of it, I'm not so sure I would want to.

One other rule that you left out is opening the car door for a lady. Simple actions of courtesy/chivalry sure do go a long way!

I would absolutely swoon if a guy opened the car door for me. lol

mint julep are great if made properly. I've had some really bad ones. There is a fine art to making a great one. And I don't have that skill. lol

(04-28-2009 11:43 AM)MemphisKitten Wrote: [ -> ]

(04-28-2009 11:11 AM)Tigerdawg Wrote: [ -> ]

(04-26-2009 02:11 AM)supertiger Wrote: [ -> ]My parents, mostly my dad, taught me some things about the way you treat others.

I noticed some things about some people in Memphis. These are my pet peeves. I thought I'd write down my top ten rules for being a gentleman.

1. ALWAYS stop for a funeral procession.

2. Never sit while a woman stands

3. Always pay when taking a girl out.

4. Never hesitate to wait for a lady when holding the door open.

5. Always say yes or no sir/mam to anyone no matter the age

6. Say mam or sir instead of Huh

7. Shake a man's hand firmly while looking him in the eye.

8. Avoid using profanity in front of women

9. Try to avoid making off-color jokes in front of mixed company

10. Nothing is better than sitting in a rocking chair on a front porch while drinking a mint Julep in a seersucker suit.




Sad to see how many people have forgotten these easy things.

GREAT POST!!!

I have observed that rule #1 is followed very closely in rural/small town settings but will get you run over here!

I have owned a seersucker suit before, but have never had a mint julep and from the sounds of it, I'm not so sure I would want to.

One other rule that you left out is opening the car door for a lady. Simple actions of courtesy/chivalry sure do go a long way!

I would absolutely swoon if a guy opened the car door for me. lol

mint julep are great if made properly. I've had some really bad ones. There is a fine art to making a great one. And I don't have that skill. lol

Since you're living in NYC, you probably shouldn't hold your breath! My wife got to go to the KY Derby before we were married and had a mint julep. She said that they were terrible. Now, I have to admit that the ingredients all sound good. I like bourbon, sugar(definitely) and mint. My grandfather used to put fresh mint in his iced tea and I'll say that was really good!

There are few things finer than a mint julep at Churchill Downs on Derby Day.

Lord willing, I will toast each of you doubting-Julepers this Saturday.

Quote:had a mint julep. She said that they were terrible

"a" is the operative word. Having one mint julep is like eating one potato chip. Why bother?

(04-28-2009 11:43 AM)MemphisKitten Wrote: [ -> ]

(04-28-2009 11:11 AM)Tigerdawg Wrote: [ -> ]

(04-26-2009 02:11 AM)supertiger Wrote: [ -> ]My parents, mostly my dad, taught me some things about the way you treat others.

I noticed some things about some people in Memphis. These are my pet peeves. I thought I'd write down my top ten rules for being a gentleman.

1. ALWAYS stop for a funeral procession.

2. Never sit while a woman stands

3. Always pay when taking a girl out.

4. Never hesitate to wait for a lady when holding the door open.

5. Always say yes or no sir/mam to anyone no matter the age

6. Say mam or sir instead of Huh

7. Shake a man's hand firmly while looking him in the eye.

8. Avoid using profanity in front of women

9. Try to avoid making off-color jokes in front of mixed company

10. Nothing is better than sitting in a rocking chair on a front porch while drinking a mint Julep in a seersucker suit.




Sad to see how many people have forgotten these easy things.

GREAT POST!!!

I have observed that rule #1 is followed very closely in rural/small town settings but will get you run over here!

I have owned a seersucker suit before, but have never had a mint julep and from the sounds of it, I'm not so sure I would want to.

One other rule that you left out is opening the car door for a lady. Simple actions of courtesy/chivalry sure do go a long way!

I would absolutely swoon if a guy opened the car door for me. lol

mint julep are great if made properly. I've had some really bad ones. There is a fine art to making a great one. And I don't have that skill. lol

You need to get away from all those yankees.

(04-28-2009 12:30 PM)Claw Wrote: [ -> ]There are few things finer than a mint julep at Churchill Downs on Derby Day.

Lord willing, I will toast each of you doubting-Julepers this Saturday.

Quote:had a mint julep. She said that they were terrible

"a" is the operative word. Having one mint julep is like eating one potato chip. Why bother?

Too funny...I use the same analogy on fresh baked chocolate chip cookies!

(04-28-2009 12:33 PM)Tigerdawg Wrote: [ -> ]

(04-28-2009 12:30 PM)Claw Wrote: [ -> ]There are few things finer than a mint julep at Churchill Downs on Derby Day.

Lord willing, I will toast each of you doubting-Julepers this Saturday.

Quote:had a mint julep. She said that they were terrible

"a" is the operative word. Having one mint julep is like eating one potato chip. Why bother?

Too funny...I use the same analogy on fresh baked chocolate chip cookies!

I think that rule applies to chocolate chip cookies too!

I know this may sound weird to some people, but I like to open the car door for my date after we arrive at the restaurant. Usually the first time they start to get out, but most of them realize I'm walking around to open the door and help them get out.

I love my seersucker suit. I love being Southern.


P.S. The mint julep comment was for dramatic appeal. I don't drink liquor or wine.

(04-28-2009 12:31 PM)TigerBill Wrote: [ -> ]

(04-28-2009 11:43 AM)MemphisKitten Wrote: [ -> ]

(04-28-2009 11:11 AM)Tigerdawg Wrote: [ -> ]

(04-26-2009 02:11 AM)supertiger Wrote: [ -> ]My parents, mostly my dad, taught me some things about the way you treat others.

I noticed some things about some people in Memphis. These are my pet peeves. I thought I'd write down my top ten rules for being a gentleman.

1. ALWAYS stop for a funeral procession.

2. Never sit while a woman stands

3. Always pay when taking a girl out.

4. Never hesitate to wait for a lady when holding the door open.

5. Always say yes or no sir/mam to anyone no matter the age

6. Say mam or sir instead of Huh

7. Shake a man's hand firmly while looking him in the eye.

8. Avoid using profanity in front of women

9. Try to avoid making off-color jokes in front of mixed company

10. Nothing is better than sitting in a rocking chair on a front porch while drinking a mint Julep in a seersucker suit.




Sad to see how many people have forgotten these easy things.

GREAT POST!!!

I have observed that rule #1 is followed very closely in rural/small town settings but will get you run over here!

I have owned a seersucker suit before, but have never had a mint julep and from the sounds of it, I'm not so sure I would want to.

One other rule that you left out is opening the car door for a lady. Simple actions of courtesy/chivalry sure do go a long way!

I would absolutely swoon if a guy opened the car door for me. lol

mint julep are great if made properly. I've had some really bad ones. There is a fine art to making a great one. And I don't have that skill. lol

You need to get away from all those yankees.

Since no one really drives up here...it is a moot point.

But even when I lived in Memphis and Dallas, guys did not open my car door. Just didn't happen...

Actually..I take that back...It happened once in Memphis...The guy was from Long Island...

I would go to the Kentucky Derby with friends, but the first Saturday in May is the Iris Festival in my hometown. I can't really miss that homecoming of sorts.

(04-28-2009 09:27 AM)MemphisKitten Wrote: [ -> ]When did people start saying "no problem" versus "You're welcome" when someone says "Thank you".

It drives me crazy when I thank someone and they say "No problem". Well it was your job, it should be no problem.

Oh, I totally agree, Kitten. That is one of my pet peeves. Why would anyone use the word "problem" when they are serving you? That is kind of like a reverse negative. I hear it all the time.
I think they are clueless as to how it sounds.

Speaking of seersucker, this was me last weekend!